Chapter 1: Understanding the Reluctance to Seek Help

In many instances, individuals hesitate to request assistance when confronted with challenging problems. Instead of reaching out, they often choose to tackle the issue on their own. This can lead to prolonged frustration as they struggle to find solutions over days, weeks, or even years.

The primary barrier to seeking help? Ego.

People frequently feel embarrassed to ask for support, perceiving it as a sign of inadequacy or vulnerability. However, this perception could not be more misguided.

The Stoic philosopher and Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius reminds us that we should set aside our pride when we find ourselves in need. He stated:

"Don't be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you've been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?"

Your objective is to achieve your mission—be it completing a challenging work assignment, overcoming emotional hurdles, or navigating unfamiliar terrain. It’s essential to recognize that accomplishing this mission doesn’t necessitate doing it alone.

Requesting help is a demonstration of wisdom rather than a sign of weakness. Moreover, it represents an act of generosity; it creates a win/win situation. When you seek assistance, you not only enhance your own situation but also provide the opportunity for someone else to contribute positively.

This collaboration is the most beneficial game you can engage in. You gain the assistance you require, while the person helping you gains the satisfaction of supporting another.

If you find yourself needing help, set aside your ego. Don’t allow pride to hinder you from accessing the valuable experiences of others. Remember, seeking assistance also allows others the chance to extend their help.

If assistance is necessary…

Don’t hesitate to ask!

The first video, "DEI: The Positive-Sum Game," explores how collaboration and diversity can lead to mutual gains in various settings, highlighting the importance of asking for help.

Chapter 2: Embracing Vulnerability to Foster Growth

Despite our instinct to go it alone, vulnerability can be a powerful tool for growth.

The second video, "Game Day: Ask for Help," illustrates the significance of reaching out for assistance in times of need, emphasizing that vulnerability can lead to stronger bonds and collective success.