A Short Temper

It’s completely natural for anyone to feel anger, but a partner who frequently loses their temper can create an uncomfortable atmosphere. If he's actively working to manage his anger through constructive outlets like therapy or exercise, that’s a positive sign. However, if he disrupts my peace without any effort to improve, it may be best to part ways.

Becomes red if: There are any signs of violence or aggressive behavior such as throwing objects or name-calling. Even if there’s no physical harm, I wouldn’t feel safe in a volatile environment.

Poor Financial Management

In today’s world, financial burdens are common due to rising costs in education and healthcare. However, there’s a big difference between someone in debt due to unavoidable circumstances and someone who overspends on luxuries. It’s about mindset, not income.

Becomes red if: His debt is a result of reckless spending habits, and he shows no urgency in addressing it.

Lack of Interest in Reading

I’ve always been the person who enjoys a good book, and I appreciate sharing what I learn with a partner. If he’s curious in other ways, like discussing insights from podcasts or documentaries, that’s a good sign.

Becomes red if: He lacks any desire for intellectual engagement or conversations.

Absence of Friends or Poor Friend Choices

Friends often serve as a reference point in understanding someone’s character. While some may be loners, having no friends raises questions. Even worse is having friends who encourage negative behavior.

Becomes red if: His friends make me uncomfortable and he doesn’t denounce their actions or words.

Lack of Hobbies

What does he enjoy outside of work? Even if he has a busy life, engaging in hobbies is essential for mental well-being. I find that activities like playing piano and hiking enhance my happiness.

Becomes red if: His only "hobbies" revolve around partying and binge-watching TV.

Absence of Goals

What aspirations does he have? While it’s normal to be uncertain about the future, having goals is important. If he’s not striving for anything, it may not be a good match.

Becomes red if: He is content with stagnation and doesn’t have any desire for self-improvement.

Sedentary Lifestyle and Unhealthy Eating

I don’t need a fitness fanatic, but a partner who prioritizes health is important. It’s vital for both of us to support each other in living healthier lives.

Becomes red if: He has the ability to exercise but chooses not to.

Drug Use

My concern isn’t about drugs themselves, but the potential ramifications. I don’t want to worry about job stability or future implications if he engages in risky behavior.

Becomes red if: He regularly uses hard drugs that could impact our future.

Children and Parenting

While being a good dad can be appealing, it also presents complexities. If he has children, his commitment to them is crucial.

Becomes red if: He neglects his responsibilities as a parent.

Poor or Inconsistent Communication

Effective communication is vital. If we can’t express our thoughts and feelings respectfully, the relationship will struggle.

Becomes red if: We can’t discuss important topics without feeling judged or unheard.

These are my thoughts on orange flags. If you have your own experiences, feel free to share them respectfully!

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