Chapter 1: The Resilience of Writing

The habit of writing is resilient; it may experience pauses, whether brief or prolonged, but it never truly fades away.

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Often, I engage in an internal dialogue, reminding myself that my writing journey shouldn’t come to an end. The conclusion of my academic life has given me pause for thought, especially as I notice the passage of time.

With each birthday, I feel the weight of expectations, particularly in cultures where turning 25 signals a societal push towards marriage. Now at 26, I find solace in the fact that many women marry later, even as the prospect of being single at 29 looms.

Why do these thoughts about aging and solitude occupy my mind so much? I have come to realize that life’s purpose extends beyond these concerns. Our destinies are woven into the fabric of our existence—when we marry, when we pass on, and so forth. It’s time to shift my focus towards setting meaningful goals.

People can have numerous aspirations throughout their lives. I’ve experienced a lengthy period of silence in my own life—if it were peaceful silence, I wouldn’t mind. However, the persistent questions in my mind cause unrest.

Am I unattractive? Is there something wrong with me? Is my height an issue? My simplicity feels out of place in today’s fast-paced world.

To quiet these thoughts, I need to engage in productive activities. Writing has always been my passion. I learned that to write effectively, one must tell their own story—share personal insights, achievements, and the challenges faced along the way.

I began my writing journey on Medium after spending a few years freelancing, ultimately landing what I thought was my dream job, only to resign a year later.

A significant transition occurred when we moved to a new location; I lost someone dear to me, and my world felt obscured by sadness and grief, compounded by a series of unfortunate events.

Months later, I began to heal, and small victories in my writing emerged. Then came a moment I had long anticipated—I got engaged, followed by marriage a year later. This new chapter brought its own set of challenges and lessons, requiring me to adapt and learn in ways I hadn’t expected.

Now, seven months into my marriage, I face new anxieties and uncertainties. I seek comfort in the advice of friends, which helps occasionally, yet I yearn for more consistency in my peace of mind. I aim to avoid the burden of lost energy, dreams, and relationships. I pray for the strength to navigate these emotions.

The first video, "3 Habits Holding Back Your Writing," explores common obstacles writers face and offers practical tips to overcome them.

The second video, "Your Daily Writing Habit - Episode 685: Stephen King on Writing Education," features insights from Stephen King on the importance of establishing a daily writing practice.

Thank you for taking the time to read my reflections.