Chapter 1: The Nature of Existence

Is life truly meant for living, or are we merely evading discomfort? Pain, in its essence, is undeniably distressing. From the moment we are born, we develop instinctual responses to shield ourselves from suffering. That first burn from a hot stove teaches us an invaluable lesson—never to touch it again.

We often shy away from the gym because the exertion feels overwhelming. We resist healthy eating due to the apparent lack of pleasure. We might even forego pursuing meaningful relationships, fearing the loneliness that comes with waiting. In essence, how much of our lives are spent steering clear of what we perceive as painful experiences?

This raises a profound dilemma regarding life and mortality: healing requires an immense investment of time. Emotional wounds can linger for years, and as we navigate this healing process, we are, paradoxically, still advancing towards our inevitable end. We trade our time spent healing for the days we have left.

Some choose to avoid significant discomfort altogether. They might forgo physical activity or nutritious foods, shun the idea of investing time in potentially unsatisfying pursuits, and skip the chance to build deep connections—after all, why take the risk of heartbreak?

Yet, can we truly call it living if we are perpetually sidestepping pain? This is the crux of the matter. Our time on earth is finite. We desire to escape pain while simultaneously missing out on genuine experiences.

Each day, consider this: would you prefer to live to 100, having taken no risks and surrounded by a few like-minded acquaintances? No spouse, no children, perhaps just a handful of friends? Did you refrain from traveling or exploring careers you found fulfilling? Did you only eat what was familiar and safe?

Alternatively, would you rather pass away at 90, enriched by a life fully lived? A loving partner or multiple significant relationships, a multitude of grandchildren, and countless friends who truly understand you? You ventured as far as possible, embracing every experience with a sense of adventure. You endured jobs you disliked while also discovering those that brought you joy. You took risks, learned from both successes and failures, and savored a variety of foods and experiences.

Reflect on this: Are you merely existing, or are you truly LIVING?

Follow for daily philosophical insights. These thoughts are drawn from my forthcoming book, “YouDaimonia: the Ancient Philosophy of Human Flourishing.”

Section 1.1: The Choice Between Safety and Fulfillment

In contemplating our choices, we must weigh the comfort of safety against the richness of a fulfilled life.

Subsection 1.1.1: The Role of Pain in Growth

Chapter 2: Guided Reflections on Mortality

In this guided meditation, "Guided Death Meditation to Live More (Maranasati)," you will explore how contemplating mortality can enhance your appreciation of life. This practice encourages you to embrace the present and acknowledge the transient nature of existence.

"The Final Journey: A Guided Buddhist Death Meditation" by Dr. Philippe Goldin offers insight into the Buddhist perspective on death and dying. This session guides you in reflecting on the impermanence of life, helping you cultivate a deeper understanding of your own existence and the importance of living fully.