Chapter 1: The Lost Art of Courtesy

In my youth, specific expectations guided our behavior: - Do not touch what isn't yours. - Address adults as Mr. or Mrs. unless invited otherwise. - Always say "please" when requesting something and "thank you" upon receiving it.

In essence, we were taught to practice basic manners!

However, today’s world feels different. What has changed?

Perhaps we are too preoccupied with our own lives or have become conditioned to believe that instant gratification means we can forgo politeness. Yet, taking a moment to express kindness doesn’t consume more time—it simply prevents you from appearing inconsiderate. What a positive outcome!

I’m referring to fundamental courtesy here!

Nowadays, children often refer to their teachers by their first names, while phrases like "please," "thank you," and "you're welcome" seem to have vanished. Online interactions have devolved into name-calling, as if strangers' opinions are personal attacks. What is going on?

As someone whose parent was a principal, I can attest that addressing teachers by their first names is frowned upon—even if you're invited to do so! In my school days, teachers' first names were closely guarded secrets, and the staff room felt off-limits. Honestly, I’m still unsure if some of my teachers even had first names!

How often do we hold doors open for others, let someone with fewer items ahead in line, or thank the barista at the drive-thru?

Come on, people! It’s not that difficult! Here are some simple tips: - Express gratitude with a "Thank you" when someone does something nice. - Use "Please" when requesting. - Respect others’ belongings—don’t touch what isn’t yours. - Say "Excuse me" if you need someone to move. - Hold the door for someone entering behind you.

Even when someone is merely doing their job, a simple "thank you" shows appreciation!

Where has our respect for one another gone?

This morning, while picking up a shipment, I found myself needing a restroom. Luckily, there was a designated bathroom for drivers, and even better, a women's restroom—what a score!

However, upon arriving, I found the door locked. When it finally opened, a man emerged! I considered asking if he could read but thought better of it. Instead, I simply remarked, “Interesting…” He quickly averted his gaze and left, and I hoped he felt embarrassed—he should have! (I don't believe this was a case of gender identity, but if I'm mistaken, I sincerely apologize.)

It’s not surprising, given that someone had scribbled "ONLY" in large letters beneath the "Women" sign, indicating this is a recurring issue. (And it often occurs elsewhere too.) But it’s simply disrespectful; it tells me you really are inconsiderate.

You may notice that there’s never a need for extra signage on men's room doors preventing women from entering. We never have that urgent of a need and certainly don’t want to witness what occurs in there.

Alright, rant over.

Seriously though, where have our manners gone? Did we misplace them, or do we no longer see their value? If it’s the former, let’s seek them out! If it’s the latter, we must do better.

Reflect on a time when you helped someone—did they say thank you? Think of a time you asked for assistance—did you remember to say please?

Polite interactions make everyone feel valued and inclined to assist others.

Still unclear about the difference? Here’s a brief illustration: - Rude: "Give me the salt." - Polite: "Could you please pass me the salt?"

See the distinction? If you don’t, let me clarify further: One is a command, and the other is a request. The former earns you some disapproving looks, while the latter simply gets you the salt—likely much faster!

So, practice your manners! When you show appreciation, you’ll likely receive it in return. Don’t hoard kindness! Spread it generously! Throw in a "you're welcome" or "I appreciate that" without hesitation! Go ahead and wish someone a "Have a nice day!" It can brighten your day and someone else's.

And most importantly, you won't come off as inconsiderate.

Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts.

Chapter 2: The Importance of Kindness

This video titled "A Book About Manners - Excuse Me! Poem by Cathy Drinkwater Better" beautifully illustrates the significance of good manners in a relatable way. It serves as a gentle reminder of the importance of courtesy in our daily lives.