Understanding Seriousness

As a psychologist and language enthusiast, I've always found that the history of words can shed light on their psychological implications. The word "serious" is a composite of earlier terms, initially related to sequence and later evolving to denote gravity or importance. This dual meaning intertwines persistence with a solemn demeanor.

When a superior asks if an employee is serious about a project, they imply both commitment and a lack of frivolity. Yet, these qualities do not necessarily coexist. It’s crucial to recognize that seriousness and discipline can exist independently.

Reflecting on my own experiences, I find that gravity does not inherently foster persistence. For example, I spent years trying to quit smoking, believing that if I could muster enough seriousness, I would succeed. I attempted to harness emotions like anger and solemnity, even swearing a grave oath in a dramatic moment. Yet, I continued to smoke.

Instead, I discovered that love—love for self and passion—was the true motivator behind my achievements.

The Power of Love

At fifteen, I experienced a profound connection with music that ignited a decade of fervent practice. The driving force behind my dedication was not gravity or seriousness but an intense love for music.

Later, when I unexpectedly quit smoking, it was not due to a solemn resolution but rather a moment of skepticism about my addiction. Underneath that skepticism was a renewed love for myself, which ultimately eclipsed my previous self-destructive habits.

Throughout my journey, whether it was pursuing my degree or overcoming depression, love has been the foundation. It serves as the table on which all emotions are arranged, influencing my commitment to various pursuits.

If you find yourself avoiding something you need to take seriously, ask yourself: how can I love this? This question opens the door to exploration and joy in your endeavors. Whether it's health or relationships, approaching your goals with love can set the stage for lasting change.

Reflecting on Dashrath's journey, it's evident that his capacity for love—whether for his village, his work, or Falguni—sustained him through two decades of labor. His love transformed grief into determination, enabling him to chip away at the mountain until he forged a safe passage for his community.